Suggestions to help you get a handle on your anger.
1. Ask yourself questions
When do you feel yourself on the verge of anger ask: Is this really what I want to do? Do I want to have this conversation or explosion now? Maybe I should wait until I feel better. Answering “no” could buy you a few precious seconds to consider your next move,” says Roy Perlis, MD, MSc, medical director of the Bipolar Clinical and Research Program at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston.
I know that I will spat off NO everytime even when I maynot have a reason to say no. I just say it.
2. Pause before you hit SEND
Email and text can be as dangerous as the spoken word, if not more so. Don’t let loose too soon. The print is forever.
I have done this way too many times as well. Now I write the email, send it to my coworker for review and by the time she sends it back to me, I am calm and don’t want to send it anymore. Sometimes I write and walk away from my computer or if I am writing it from my phone I start one of my games instead.
3. Watch for the signs
If you’re prone to anger outbursts, you know it by now. “For some people, this feels like a panic attack, a rush of adrenaline, heart pounding, skin flushed,” says Perlis. Have a plan in place about how you intend to respond—and keep to it.
I still have a difficult time with this one. I can feel that anger flood me. I did yesterday talking to my boss and never feel that talking to her. Before I could say something to her that I would regrete we were intrupted by another coworker and by the time that coworker left the office I was calm and able to listen to my boss and her reasoning. So I guess what I need to do is stop talking and say give me a minute please and just breath or get up and walk.